Assisted Living



Definition of assisted living

  1. A system of housing and limited care that is designed for senior citizens who need some assistance with daily activities but do not require care in a nursing home —usually hyphenated when used attributively an assisted-living facility.

    ~Merriam-Webster 😉

First Known Use of assisted living: 1966

Oregon Public Broadcasting has a morning show called “Think Out Loud,” and a recent topic was down-sizing a senior. A guest from AARP told a personal story of having to move her mother out of the family home she promised to keep her in. It was heart-wrenching to listen and the anguish was still palpable in her voice.

Her story reminds that for most aging-in-place is preferred—but for some, it becomes untenable.

Sensitivity to Telling Mom She Can’t Stay Home Alone Anymore

A common cry for help from an adult daughter living in Brazoria, Texas, reaches out for advice:

Mom is 82 and slipping in memory…she has recently been recommended to benefit from “assisted living”. I DON’T need ideas on how to keep her in her own home. We have exhausted ourselves providing company of ourselves which include her children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren, life-support lines, meals, cleaning and shopping, medical appointments, writing her bills, etc. In-home-health or assisted living is the next best thing…but it won’t come without breaking my heart and her’s. Please don’t suggest she come live with one of us…she did when the hurricane displaced her and she was miserable. I need suggestions how to be kind, but firm that she needs help…more than we can provide with her medical needs at this time of her life. She has CHF and COPD and is down to 70 + lbs. She has a nurse coming weekly and physical therapists, and occupational therapists, too. What do you say?? thank you for listening…

Assisted Living is a humane option (if affordable) when aging in place is untenable.